As a parent or caregiver, you want the best for your child or dependent. It’s natural to have concerns or questions when you notice changes in their behavior—and knowing when to seek help can make a meaningful difference.
Warning Signs to Watch For
Children and adolescents may not always have the words to express what they are going through. Pay attention if your child shows any of the following behaviors, especially if they last for more than two weeks or represent a noticeable change:
- Persistent sadness, withdrawal, or increased irritability
- Talking about self-harm, suicide, or making plans to do so
- Sudden, intense fear or panic symptoms (e.g., rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath)
- Frequent fighting or aggressive behavior toward others
- Out-of-control behavior that may cause harm to self or others
- Disordered eating behaviors (skipping meals, purging, misuse of laxatives)
- Excessive worries or fears that interfere with daily life
- Difficulty controlling behavior or frequent risky actions
- Substance use, including drugs or alcohol
- Severe mood swings affecting relationships
- Noticeable changes in personality or behavior
- Declining academic performance
You may also want to be especially attentive if your child is experiencing major life changes or stressors such as:
- Loss of a loved one
- Divorce or separation in the family
- Moving homes or changing schools
- Traumatic events, including natural disasters
- Bullying or teasing
- Academic or peer-related difficulties
When to Seek Help
If you are concerned about your child’s behavior, early support is important. Consider reaching out to:
- A school counselor or school nurse
- A mental health provider
- Your child’s primary care doctor or another healthcare professional
You can also ask:
- Whether a specialist evaluation is needed
- If the provider has experience treating child or adolescent behavioral health concerns
- About recommended treatment options, including therapy or medication if appropriate
How to Talk to Your Child About Mental Health
Starting the conversation can feel challenging, but open and calm communication helps your child feel supported.
You might begin with questions such as:
- “Can you tell me what’s been going on? How are you feeling?”
- “Have you felt this way before?”
- “I’m here to listen—what can I do to help you feel better?”
- “Would you feel comfortable talking to someone else as well?”
- “Are you having thoughts about hurting yourself or someone else?”
Helpful Communication Tips
When talking with your child:
- Use clear, simple, and age-appropriate language
- Choose a calm, private moment when your child feels safe
- Listen without interrupting or judging
- Watch their reactions and slow down if they seem overwhelmed
- Allow space for them to share feelings at their own pace
Early awareness, open conversation, and timely support can make a significant difference in a child’s well-being.
Get Help for Your Child
Seek immediate assistance if you think your child is in danger of harming themselves or others. Call or text 988 or chat the Lifeline.
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